Questions That Get To The Heart Of Confidence

As I mentioned last week, Ashley, a serious student of confidence, asked some key questions in an email exchange about practical techniques for strengthening confidence. The following are Ashley’s specific questions, along with helpful ideas: “What strategies helped you to become more confident?” “How do you handle negative people?” “What encouraged you to tell your story?” “(I know everyone is Read More >

The Truth About Growing Your Confidence

Immediately following a speech I delivered at a local high school, Ashley, a sophomore, cornered me and whispered, “How did you get so much confidence?” The intensity of her body language and eye contact told me she was serious about figuring out how to get some confidence for herself. The desperation in her tone, along with a deep desire to Read More >

Why There Is A Lack Of Emotionally Intelligent Leaders

Emotional intelligence, also known as EQ or EI, describes a person’s ability to recognize, process and effectively use emotions to the benefit of everyone involved. In recent years, EQ has become a highly sought after skillset, with an increasing number of certification programs around the world. The challenge with many of the certification programs is that they can easily create Read More >

How To Be A Better Leader Than Your Boss

Ever experience such remarkably terrible leadership that you decided, “When I get the opportunity to lead, I will do things differently. I’ll never treat my team that way.” Feeling suffocated and unsupported, you begin looking for your chance to show them how it’s done. Then you get your opportunity, interview carefully for your open position, select the best candidate, and Read More >

Why Advocating For Yourself is Necessary

Ever find yourself wanting to negotiate for a better sign-on package, a raise or an increase in responsibility, but can’t bring yourself to make the request? You know there’s a decent chance you’d get a “yes” if you ask, yet you keep quiet and think, “Next time.” Why is that? That’s because you have a built-in commentator (self-talk) that has Read More >

A Key Question That Is Guaranteed to Make This Your Best Holiday Season Yet

Holiday parties, gift buying, end-of-year performance reviews—the holidays can be overwhelming and exhausting. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way. While riding the elevator at my dentist’s office, I stuck up a conversation with Jackie. “Another beautiful day, right?” I asked, pointing out the magnificence of 60+ degrees in early December in Maryland. “Yeah, great Read More >

The Untold Blessing of Gratitude

Inspired by Kristin Hoffmann’s, Love & Gratitude The greatest gift of gratitude is that it can be felt in your most joyous times and your most trying times. Considering the immense challenges of life, it is a blessing to know that feelings of gratitude are linked more to perception then circumstance. Gratitude is a powerful tool that has the capability to Read More >

How To Make Time For Meaningful Work By Giving Away Critical Work

It’s entirely too easy to allow yourself to horde work because it needs to be done right. The results are too important, and your schedule is too tight to teach the person on your team who keeps asking for opportunity. And, so—you put your ambitions on hold, as you continue sludging through, checking tasks off your list. Meanwhile, this little Read More >

How To Effectively Confront Underperforming Employees

I was recently talking with Antonio, a senior leader, about an employee who had put in a request for overtime while he was away on vacation. Confused by the request, he sought out the employee and asked, “Why do you need this overtime? Is the workload too much? Are our goals too aggressive?” “I just don’t feel like I’m making Read More >

How Excellent Handwriting Landed an Opportunity at Harvard

The challenge with your natural talents is that they come so … well, naturally to you.  You don’t think anything of them, and so you often discount them and remain head down in the work you think will move you ahead in your career. You may not always say so, but you want to share your gifts, live into your Read More >