Why Limiting Praise Diminishes Trust

Last week, we addressed the reason you don’t get compliments and what to do about it. This week, let’s take a deep dive on why leaders (often unknowingly) avoid praising their team, and consequently miss out on the opportunity to strengthen trust, engagement and productivity. Said simply, leaders avoid praising their team because of a faulty belief—praising others signals weakness Read More >

What To Do About People Who Don’t Acknowledge You

Ever find yourself thankful for an exceptional employee (or boss), yet failing to communicate your appreciation to them directly? Turns out, you’re not the only one—plenty of people struggle to give compliments. But why? Sitting at a juice bar—Nectar—in Lewes, Delaware, I listened to my barista go on and on about how great her boss is—“She’s young, but she has Read More >

How to Stop Wasting Your Valuable Energy

Where in your life do you spend your time and energy focused on trying to get other people to change, rather than challenging and changing yourself? In December of 2017, we headed up to the Catskills in New York. It’s not exactly the right direction to travel from Maryland during that time of year, but I figured some time with Read More >

The Key To Staying Focused When Your Motivation Is Low

Ever find yourself wanting to stay motivated, but struggling with the sheer amount of work that needs to be done as you reach for your third cup of triple espresso? Your heart and body are ready to run fifteen marathons, but your brain is… still tired. What gives, and how do you keep your energy and momentum vibrant with a Read More >

How to Strengthen Your Self-Image

Over the past three weeks, we have been addressing questions posed by a serious student of self-confidence, Ashley. We started out by identifying Ashley’s top five questions, and then we dove into strategies for strengthening confidence. The next week, we dove into the following three questions: “How do you handle negative people?” “What encouraged you to tell your story?” “(I Read More >

Questions That Get To The Heart Of Confidence

As I mentioned last week, Ashley, a serious student of confidence, asked some key questions in an email exchange about practical techniques for strengthening confidence. The following are Ashley’s specific questions, along with helpful ideas: “What strategies helped you to become more confident?” “How do you handle negative people?” “What encouraged you to tell your story?” “(I know everyone is Read More >

The Truth About Growing Your Confidence

Immediately following a speech I delivered at a local high school, Ashley, a sophomore, cornered me and whispered, “How did you get so much confidence?” The intensity of her body language and eye contact told me she was serious about figuring out how to get some confidence for herself. The desperation in her tone, along with a deep desire to Read More >

Why There Is A Lack Of Emotionally Intelligent Leaders

Emotional intelligence, also known as EQ or EI, describes a person’s ability to recognize, process and effectively use emotions to the benefit of everyone involved. In recent years, EQ has become a highly sought after skillset, with an increasing number of certification programs around the world. The challenge with many of the certification programs is that they can easily create Read More >

How To Be A Better Leader Than Your Boss

Ever experience such remarkably terrible leadership that you decided, “When I get the opportunity to lead, I will do things differently. I’ll never treat my team that way.” Feeling suffocated and unsupported, you begin looking for your chance to show them how it’s done. Then you get your opportunity, interview carefully for your open position, select the best candidate, and Read More >

Why Advocating For Yourself is Necessary

Ever find yourself wanting to negotiate for a better sign-on package, a raise or an increase in responsibility, but can’t bring yourself to make the request? You know there’s a decent chance you’d get a “yes” if you ask, yet you keep quiet and think, “Next time.” Why is that? That’s because you have a built-in commentator (self-talk) that has Read More >