Questions That Get To The Heart Of Confidence

As I mentioned last week, Ashley, a serious student of confidence, asked some key questions in an email exchange about practical techniques for strengthening confidence. The following are Ashley’s specific questions, along with helpful ideas: “What strategies helped you to become more confident?” “How do you handle negative people?” “What encouraged you to tell your story?” “(I know everyone is Read More >

Why Building Trust Is Crucial Toward Providing Meaningful Feedback

“Are you serious? Is she really wearing a black thong under a light colored dress? That’s inappropriate,” Justine, a fellow runner said moments after our large group took our seats at a local restaurant. It was a beautiful September day, we had just finished a 5K, and we scored outdoor seating at a tasty restaurant. Life was good. Except for Read More >

A Key Question That Is Guaranteed to Make This Your Best Holiday Season Yet

Holiday parties, gift buying, end-of-year performance reviews—the holidays can be overwhelming and exhausting. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way. While riding the elevator at my dentist’s office, I stuck up a conversation with Jackie. “Another beautiful day, right?” I asked, pointing out the magnificence of 60+ degrees in early December in Maryland. “Yeah, great Read More >

How Excellent Handwriting Landed an Opportunity at Harvard

The challenge with your natural talents is that they come so … well, naturally to you.  You don’t think anything of them, and so you often discount them and remain head down in the work you think will move you ahead in your career. You may not always say so, but you want to share your gifts, live into your Read More >

5 Key Elements To Helping Your Colleagues Overcome Fears After a Promotion

Ever work with someone who, after promoted, starts acting… weird? Before the promotion, they were pleasant, focused, hard working, and a joy to work with. After the promotion, they begin running themselves ragged, refusing to lean on others. Or, worse yet, they become demanding and aggressive in pursuit of perfection. Have you seen these behaviors in your colleagues, or maybe Read More >

1 Reason Why You Probably Don’t Love Your Job Anymore

Ever find yourself overwhelmed, exhausted and frustrated with a job you once loved? Hoping you’ll find your way back to enjoying your work again, you keep your head down and focus on finishing so you can finally take a breather. “As soon as I finish this project,” you tell your family and friends, who have nearly given up on tugging Read More >

The Key To Making Criticism Useful

Ever experience the gut-wrenching sucker punch that leaves you ready to drop kick someone, either literally or with your words? This feeling often comes right after someone tells you what a terrible job you did, how you should have done something differently, or how disappointed s/he is that you didn’t know better. The feeling is exacerbated, along with the reaction Read More >

Who’s Borrowing Your Strength?

Think of the person on your team whose actions or inactions are garnering them negative publicity. You know the person—the one your colleagues and leadership team keeps worrying and complaining about. In your mind, you hear yourself thinking— “If they’d just be quiet long enough they’d get the answer they’re looking for.” “Don’t they know they should take ownership of Read More >

Ask This Question Before Giving Critical Feedback

Considering the potentially negative impact of critical feedback, it’s not surprising that many people avoid giving it altogether. Or, they give it anonymously, relieving themselves of any potential discomfort instigated by the feedback. But is such an approach helpful or harmful? Several months ago, I listened as Tracy, an executive at an engineering firm, shared about the devastating impact of Read More >

Why You Should Let Go of Your Best Employees

Once you’ve gone through the process of finding, hiring and training a highly ambitious self-starter, the last thing you want to do is let them go. Yet, holding them in a position to make life easier for you may just lead to losing them altogether. Brad, a businessman with a half-dozen awards under his belt for excellence in sales and Read More >