The Secret To Getting The Kind of Results You Crave

Ever find yourself thinking, “If they would just do _____, then we can make progress and I can feel good about the direction we’re headed.” Concerned that you’ll keep getting the same results with a particular person (or people), you keep trying to get them to show up earlier, stay later, put more effort into each project, communicate better, and Read More >

How to Stop Wasting Your Valuable Energy

Where in your life do you spend your time and energy focused on trying to get other people to change, rather than challenging and changing yourself? In December of 2017, we headed up to the Catskills in New York. It’s not exactly the right direction to travel from Maryland during that time of year, but I figured some time with Read More >

Why Building Trust Is Crucial Toward Providing Meaningful Feedback

“Are you serious? Is she really wearing a black thong under a light colored dress? That’s inappropriate,” Justine, a fellow runner said moments after our large group took our seats at a local restaurant. It was a beautiful September day, we had just finished a 5K, and we scored outdoor seating at a tasty restaurant. Life was good. Except for Read More >

Why Establishing Core Values is a Waste of Time and Money

Company culture experts urge leaders to establish clearly defined values to serve as a guide for decisions and behaviors throughout an organization. To ensure they have the best representation of the values shared among those in leadership, companies often spend gobs of cash and time on experts who ultimately produce a document aligning the most common ideals. Mounted on the Read More >

Intendaware: How to Systematically Increase Your Self-Confidence

Confidence comes from the Latin word confide, which means to entrust. Self-confidence, then, is about learning to trust yourself with yourself. Just as it takes experiences over time to trust others, trusting in your own experience of life requires that same kind of intention and attention. Remember the first time you sat behind the steering wheel of a car to Read More >

How To Use Anger To Strengthen Trust

Seeking understanding is the last thing we want to do when someone has offended us, tainted our reputation, or put us in harm’s way. It’s far easier to hold tightly to our beliefs, keep our anger, and strengthen our story by gathering all the necessary data and buy-in from others. It’s risky to seek their perspective and listen openly and Read More >

3 Critical Steps Leaders Need To Achieve More with Less Staff

Struggling with a small staff? Need to find a way to get the ones you have fully engaged? Here are three key steps to take: Clarify Outcomes Beyond shareholder value, bonuses and becoming “the best,” consider gaining clarity and communicating consistently these three elements: How does your product/service contribute to your customers’ needs? And, how does your company/team deliver the Read More >

How To Use Anger To Strengthen Trust

Seeking understanding is the last thing we want to do when someone has offended us, tainted our reputation, or put us in harm’s way. It’s far easier to hold tightly to our beliefs, keep our anger, and strengthen our story by gathering all the necessary data and buy-in from others. It’s risky to seek their perspective and listen openly and Read More >

The Danger of Crying at Work

During the Q&A session of a panel discussion I was a part of recently, a woman stood up and asked, “Is it okay to cry at work?” Previous to that moment, I would have said, “Of course, it’s okay to cry.” But I held my tongue because of the words I’d heard Freeman Hrabowski, President of UMBC, say during a Read More >

Are You a Grit or an Oat?

Looking up at his battered face, I longed to understand his experience of the world. I tried to imagine how the twelve-year old he once was ended up in prison? How had he even survived a gunshot to the head? How had he made it past eighteen, much less to thirty-four? Nearly a year ago, Daniel found his way to Read More >