“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E.E. Cummings
Fear of failure is one of the things that held me back from doing work I truly care about. Failing to get it perfect, along with a significant lack of confidence in myself to overcome that fear is something we likely all face in some area of our lives.
The key question we must ask to overcome this is: How do we get to the other side of fear and allow progress to get in the way of perfection?
I started a list of the qualities I’ve seen scattered among people who exude confidence—not to be confused with cockiness—to answer that question.
Those who exude confidence:
- Stand tall.
- Make eye contact.
- Set strong personal boundaries.
- Have a good sense of humor.
- Acknowledge mistakes, and lessons learned.
- Ask good questions, and then listen.
- Smile often.
- Have no problem being wrong.
- Remove distractions so they can focus on the people their with.
- Take risks.
- Share the spotlight.
- Cheer for and support others.
- Study their craft relentlessly and happily.
- Invest in themselves.
- Speak their truth, even if their voice shakes.
- Take action even when they don’t have all the information.
- Ask for help.
- Express themselves freely.
- Focus on the good, or the lesson, in each experience.
- Surround themselves with positive people.
- See failure as success in action.
- Show up well prepared, having done the research.
- Trust in their abilities to contribute meaningfully.
- Honor their strengths and weaknesses.
- Are generous, respectful and kind.
- Seek progress over perfection.
- Take action continuously.
- Say “Please,” and “Thank you.”
- Take care of their body.
- Keep learning.
- Nurture their spirit.
- Are curious.
- Believe they are worthwhile, lovable, and valuable.
- Avoid taking things personally.
- Trust that who they are is enough.
I have yet to meet a single person who demonstrates each of these qualities all of the time. However, they do work at reinforcing the habits that strengthen [Add link to “habits that strengthen” once both are live] their mind, body and spirit, and so can you.
Up next week—16 Confidence-Building Habits You Need to Incorporate Into Your Daily Routine
Here’s to your greatness,
P.S. Ready to strengthen your confidence, increase your impact and influence-ability? Grab your Gearing for Greatness introductory session today. Message me directly at Misti at Misti Burmeister.com to get started.