Have you ever found yourself standing in a fitting room, questioning whether you can rock this outfit? Recently, I found myself in that very situation, pondering over a pair of pants and whether they matched my age category. My wife often teases me about my style choices, suggesting they belong to a much older generation. This time, I turned to the saleswoman assisting me, who happened to belong to that very generation, to seek her opinion.

As I began to ask, “So… You are from perhaps a different generation than me… Do you think I could…,” she cut me off with a simple gesture. “Look at my shoes,” she said, pointing to her Converse sneakers paired with a more formal outfit. Instantly, the message clicked. It wasn’t about whether the jeans fit my generation; it was about whether I liked them. With newfound confidence, I decided to buy those pants. 

In reflecting on this experience, it becomes clear just how frequently we seek validation from others in our professional lives, often questioning if we truly have what it takes to excel. We find ourselves asking, “Do you think I have what it takes?” seeking affirmation from everyone except the one opinion that matters most—our own. This search for external approval can overshadow the transformative power that comes from trusting our own judgment and preferences. 

Imagine the potential if we, like the wise woman in the story, confidently embraced our unique style and abilities. Her choice of Converse sneakers with formal attire powerfully illustrates that our value lies in self-assurance, not external perceptions. Shifting our focus to self-validation and personal insight can unleash unparalleled growth both personally and professionally. 

In careers, as in fashion, the key question is whether our choices resonate with us—not if they meet others’ expectations. By embracing our unique skills, we step into authenticity and confidence, thriving without the weight of outside approval. Next time you doubt your abilities, remember the fitting room lesson: wear what feels right, choose paths that resonate with you, and take pride in your individuality. Confidence and self-assurance are the keys to rocking any path you choose.

Here’s to your greatness,

Misti Burmeister

Misti Burmeister helps companies and leaders motivate and inspire excellence. For nearly 20 years, she has facilitated communication that results in trust, increasing engagement and productivity across generations. Make sure your communication is coming across the way you intend, visit https://www.MistiBurmeister.com