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Salt and Wounds: The Blessings in the Burn
“If someone throws salt at you, and you don’t have any open wounds, it won’t hurt,” a friend shared, after hearing about a situation that was upsetting for me. A few days later, my wife, Yvette, got bit on the thumb by one of our cats while trying to get her into the...
Stop Quitting On Yourself, Please
A few weeks ago, I was hanging out in the kitchen with my friend, Kate, and her two children. When I asked her what the best part of her day had been, she said, “My coffee.” It wasn’t the first time Kate referred to coffee as the best part of her day. Concerned, I...
What To Do When January Passes and You Haven’t Made Progress on Your Goals
As I sit here, thinking about the peeling back of the calendar, I feel antsy — like there’s something I need to do and quickly, to ensure that I get to the end of the year feeling accomplished. Fear is strong. Can you relate? Here’s what the fears sound like right...
Turning Pain into Power—The 2023 Polar Bear Plunge
As I stood staring at the water rippling on the shoreline, I felt impatient. I wanted to enjoy pre-game connecting time with the Oyster Cove Cheering Squad (a.k.a. my neighbors), and I wanted to get this plunge over with. Finally, when everyone who was willing to...
2022 Was Equally One of the Hardest and Best Years of My Life. Let Me Explain…..
As January came to a conclusion, so did my father-in-law’s life. Though we did not know the severity of his cancer until just a few weeks before he passed, something within he and I seemed to know that Now is the time to put down our fears and dare to Connect on a...
Keep Your Team Motivated Especially When The Company Is Struggling
Last weekend I went to a silent meditation retreat in Waynesboro, PA. The evening before we were to begin our silent meditation practice, we sat around a big table, enjoying food and getting to know each other. Once they found out what I do for work, one of them—a...
A Simple Way To Improve Focus and Re-Energize Your Team
Imagine for a moment, if you will, that you trained for nine months to prepare for a marathon. Each day, you got up early, showed up with your running shoes on, and completed your run for the day. In order to keep your muscles strong, you also hit the weight room a...
A Powerful And Effective Way To Ensure You Have A Happy Holiday Season & Poem
Happy Holidays! Given all of the challenges brought on by change, loss, and uncertainty, I thought I would share a simple technique to bring more joy and happiness into your holiday season. While I share about it in this 3-minute video below, I will nugget the idea...
A Case For Confidence
The overwhelm in healthcare services has a significant impact on employees and the consumers they serve. Supporting competence and confidence in healthcare practitioners is key to re-energizing and re-engaging nurses, doctors, and practitioners at every level. Case...
Resentments and Freebies: Why You Shouldn’t Work For Free
Have you ever been asked to work for free? Maybe the request came in the form of additional projects being added indiscriminately to your workload or getting a promotion without a pay raise. Very often, we say “yes,” hoping that something good will come in return. ...
Stop Making Your Hard Experiences… Harder
If you are a driven person, you’ll relate to this story I’m about to share. If you know someone who is (possibly) too driven for their own good, you’ll appreciate this story. Perhaps you’ll even want to share it with them. After two days of lying in bed, too sick to...
A Simple Idea To Make You More Valuable Everywhere You Go
It was a hot summer day, and I had been working on my fifth book for a few hours, when I decided to jump on my bike and head down to Dewey Beach to grab ice cream at my favorite place—Vanderwende’s. With an exceedingly generous serving of mint chocolate chip (my...
One Reason Many Businesses Are Still Struggling To Find And Keep Employees: Blind Spots
“Sorry, we can’t get your house cleaned this month… we’re too short staffed. We can’t find enough cleaners for our growing business,” Alexia said. The following week there was a cancellation, and Alexia sent two ladies to clean our home. Curious, I asked them, “Why...
Staying Out Of The Middle When You’re Trying To Build Rapport With Both Sides
When we’re new to a company or a team, and especially when we’re in a managerial role, rapport building is essential to success. Forming bonds with colleagues and team members makes collaboration more fun and results more rewarding. The time and effort required to...
How To Do The Work That Makes You Come Alive
Most of us have been taught to say and do things in a particular way. Fear of not fitting in, or worse, failing to please those we care about, often drives us away from doing and saying the things that make us come alive. Rather than risk the possibility of...
A Simple Practice To Increasing Confidence, Courage, and Empowerment
“We need to feel seen and affirmed—it creates a sense of security,” Gayle said, as I sat across from her trying to figure out how to help my brain to stop kicking off stress hormones. With the sudden passing of my beloved father-in-law, my wife, who has been a solid...
What To Do When Feedback Leaves You Feeling Like A Jerk
“Be nice,” Louisa said, defending her husband. “Nice? That was nice,” I shot back, joking, of course. Be nice,” she repeated, furrowing her brows, letting me know that she wasn’t messing around. “Wait, you’re being serious?” I asked. “Yes, you need to be nice.” ...
What to Do When Your Company or Boss Is Disrespectful
Have you ever seen a sign or heard a message similar to this? If you have, know that what the note really means is that your employer is afraid. Here are a few of the things they’re afraid of: — Losing employees, which they need to do the work, for better pay —...