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What To Do When Fear Keeps Stopping You From Doing Work That Matters
How do you pursue the work you’ve been put on this planet to do when the work you care about causes, at times, surges of adrenaline that make rest nearly impossible? Why go through the painstaking process of putting yourself out there when it might not work? With...
A Simple Strategy For Finding Great People
Ever wonder how some leaders attract the most dedicated, loyal and hardworking team members? What are they doing… differently? You wonder, as you watch talented people vie for a position under their leadership. While there are many great answers to this question, one...
Why Limiting Praise Diminishes Trust
Last week, we addressed the reason you don’t get compliments and what to do about it. This week, let’s take a deep dive on why leaders (often unknowingly) avoid praising their team, and consequently miss out on the opportunity to strengthen trust, engagement and...
What To Do About People Who Don’t Acknowledge You
Ever find yourself thankful for an exceptional employee (or boss), yet failing to communicate your appreciation to them directly? Turns out, you’re not the only one—plenty of people struggle to give compliments. But why? Sitting at a juice bar—Nectar—in Lewes,...
4 Critical Questions You Need To Ask Before Giving Critical Feedback
Ever find yourself desperately wanting to give another person feedback, but also struggling with the possibility of their defensiveness? You want to help them get better results, but you don’t want to waste your time or energy with someone who may be reactive. This is...
How to Stop Wasting Your Valuable Energy
Where in your life do you spend your time and energy focused on trying to get other people to change, rather than challenging and changing yourself? In December of 2017, we headed up to the Catskills in New York. It’s not exactly the right direction to travel from...
How To Get What You Need
Ever find yourself struggling with… yourself? Maybe it’s your mood, your results, or even a physical pain. Whatever it is, it’s annoying and you want it to go away, or to change in some way. Walking around my absolute favorite small town, Lewes, Delaware, I found...
The Key To Staying Focused When Your Motivation Is Low
Ever find yourself wanting to stay motivated, but struggling with the sheer amount of work that needs to be done as you reach for your third cup of triple espresso? Your heart and body are ready to run fifteen marathons, but your brain is… still tired. What gives, and...
How to Strengthen Your Self-Image
Over the past three weeks, we have been addressing questions posed by a serious student of self-confidence, Ashley. We started out by identifying Ashley’s top five questions, and then we dove into strategies for strengthening confidence. The next week, we dove into...
How To Handle Negative People
As you’ll recall, last week we addressed Ashley’s (a serious student of confidence) first question, which focused on uncovering specific strategies for becoming more confident. This week we’ll dive into her next three questions, and finish off with the final one next...
Questions That Get To The Heart Of Confidence
As I mentioned last week, Ashley, a serious student of confidence, asked some key questions in an email exchange about practical techniques for strengthening confidence. The following are Ashley’s specific questions, along with helpful ideas: “What strategies helped...
The Truth About Growing Your Confidence
Immediately following a speech I delivered at a local high school, Ashley, a sophomore, cornered me and whispered, “How did you get so much confidence?” The intensity of her body language and eye contact told me she was serious about figuring out how to get some...
Here’s How to Strengthen Your Leadership Presence
You’ve seen the magnetizing pull some leaders have on the people around them. You want that for yourself, and in some cases, you’ve even been told it’s needed to be successful. “When you walk in the room,” your boss or mentor tells you, “You need to present a more...
Why There Is A Lack Of Emotionally Intelligent Leaders
Emotional intelligence, also known as EQ or EI, describes a person’s ability to recognize, process and effectively use emotions to the benefit of everyone involved. In recent years, EQ has become a highly sought after skillset, with an increasing number of...
How To Be A Better Leader Than Your Boss
Ever experience such remarkably terrible leadership that you decided, “When I get the opportunity to lead, I will do things differently. I’ll never treat my team that way.” Feeling suffocated and unsupported, you begin looking for your chance to show them how it’s...
Why Building Trust Is Crucial Toward Providing Meaningful Feedback
“Are you serious? Is she really wearing a black thong under a light colored dress? That’s inappropriate,” Justine, a fellow runner said moments after our large group took our seats at a local restaurant. It was a beautiful September day, we had just finished a 5K, and...
What Bare Trees Can Teach Us About Vulnerability
Until recently, bare trees in the midst of winter had always conjured up feelings of vulnerability. Without leaves to serve as a protective barrier, it’s entirely too easy to see and be seen. Such seeing is both welcome and appreciated during joyous times. Painful...
Here’s What To Do With Colleagues Who Aren’t Pulling Their Weight
Whether they’re mooching off your hard work, taking credit for a job well done, or complaining about their inability to keep up, difficult colleagues can increase your workload and get in the way of finishing on time. With a strong commitment to leaving the project in...